Jobs, especially those in tech, constantly throw new (and sometimes exciting!) things our way. These things, however, can range from the mundane and boring to the pulse-pounding hair-pulling problems that come out of nowhere. Regardless of the excitement is causes, I’ve found being constantly uncomfortable with what’s going on has helped me both stay involved and helped me grow.
Whats uncomfortable?
“Uncomfortable” in this case doesn’t refer to feeling out of place, or feeling afraid/insulted by my team. Uncomfortable instead refers to the feeling of “hmm, I’m not 100% sure I know what this is or how to solve it, but I’ll take a shot!”. Our lives are generally about finding comfort, the most comfortable chair, the most comfortable clothes, the most comfortable relationship. First feeling this at work easily makes most people recoil, since who wants to be uncomfortable?
Uncomfortable can pop up in different spots for different people, but I found it showing up frequently when:
I’m asked to take on something with a system or team I’m not familiar with
I’m given vague or incomplete information on an ask
I get pulled in to something last minute
These are all cases where I feel surprised, overwhelmed or frustrated.
Settle in, get comfy
There’s really only two options when that feeling comes up:
Embrace it and settle in
Reject it
Running is easy, really easy. This looks like pawning it off on a teammate, telling someone it’s not something you do, or simply not engaging with the request. Sometimes this response is appropriate, for example if you’re asked to something wildly outside your realm (think being asked to build dashboards when you’re an infrastructure engineer or front end work when you’ve never done that). How you do turn it down is important (and something I’ll get into more detail later!), but the other option is to embrace the discomfort.
Why get comfy?
Just like building muscle results in a bit of stiff or soreness, embracing the discomfort at work results in stronger and broader skills. Since that discomfort usually stems from being pushed a little bit further than you want to be pushed it also represents an opportunity to grow. Embracing that discomfort means embracing the chance to grow and to build new skills.
That said, it’s not always easy! Just like that first workout can turn someone off to the gym, accepting those tough, uncomfortable, assignments can be hard. Instead of seeing it as a painful thing to endure, I’ve begun to see it as a positive reflection of growth. Having that uncomfortable feeling now means I get to learn something new, and get to become stronger. So learn to get comfortable being uncomfortable. See out those things that will push you. It doesn’t matter if you blow it out of the water, or take your time working it through, you’ll get stronger.